Table of Contents
- 1 14 Signs It’s Time To End Your Relationship
- 1.1 1. Unbalanced relationship
- 1.2 2. You don’t want the same things in your futures.
- 1.3 3. You only communicate when necessary.
- 1.4 4. You feel loved and supported only when you’re happy.
- 1.5 5. You easily fall for other people.
- 1.6 6. The relationship is negatively impacting your life.
- 1.7 7. A lack of respect.
- 1.8 8. You are flirting with someone else.
- 1.9 9. Controlling behavior.
- 1.10 10. You don’t trust your partner.
- 1.11 11. Cheating.
- 1.12 12. You find yourself lying.
- 1.13 13. You constantly say, “when X happens, everything will be fine”.
- 1.14 14. You’ve grown apart.
- 1.15 Conclusion – Signs Your Relationship Is Over
14 Signs It’s Time To End Your Relationship
We all enter into relationships hoping we’ve finally found our soulmate. However, the truth is once we come to know more about our partner, we’d wish we hadn’t started dating them in the first place.
Signs your relationship is over with that person normally abounds after sometime but we may just not know what they are or what to look for. Or in other times you may know what they are but simply try to ignore the signs anyway until it’s too late.
In this article, we present with 14 signs telling you it’s time to move on with your life and become newly single, again! A relationship that has run its course is not always bad in itself; in fact in some cases it could be the best thing that happened to you.
So let’s look at the signs your relationship is over and what to do when you see the writing on the wall.
1. Unbalanced relationship
If you find yourself in a relationship, that is totally unbalanced in the favor of your partner, then you are not in a relationship, you are in a dictatorship. A healthy relationship is balanced, and both partners play off each other; each contributing to the other at different times.
There may be a time where you need to help your partner, and another time where they need to help you.
If you are treating them like royalty while they leave you feeling like a worthless peasant, then it’s time for you to get going. It may be hard for you to leave when you feel less appreciated, but that in itself should be enough to go out, and get someone who will appreciate you more.
2. You don’t want the same things in your futures.
It is certainly possible to be in love in the here and now, and that is a wonderful thing. However, it is important to be able to talk about what you and your significant other want in the next few years.
Where do you want to settle? Do you want children? Are you the same religion, and if not do you care? If you find that you have opposing, ‘non-negotiables’ that neither of you are willing to compromise on, it’s time to have an honest conversation about whether or not a prosperous future is realistic.
3. You only communicate when necessary.
We all know that communication is the foundation of any strong relationship.
When you communicate openly, honestly and clearly, you become closer to the person you love. You can talk through the issues that break up couples.
If the communication is a series of one word, infrequent and only when necessary, it may be a sign that the relationship is coming to an end. You can try to break through, but if it feels like your love doesn’t want to do the same, you may need to get honest about your future together.
4. You feel loved and supported only when you’re happy.
Many of us feel loved and supported in our relationships when we’re feeling happy, confident and comfortable. But what happens when we’re having a “low” day, when we’re stressed at work?
What happens when we lose someone we love, get laid off at work, or get a diagnosis that turns our world upside down?
When we feel pressured to maintain a certain emotional equilibrium around our partners, we breed secondary emotions — guilt, shame, and anxiety — for experiencing anything other than happiness and calm.
Inevitably, life will throw more things than just happiness and calm your way, so it’s important feel safe feeling those less comfortable emotions in the presence of your partner.
5. You easily fall for other people.
When your love is strong, you only see and want to be with the person you love. Yes, there are many beautiful people in the world, and you look, but it’s not looks of lust.
You would never betray the person who takes your breath away. When you find yourself looking a little too long, or it seems like you’re falling for other people, it may be a sign, a red flag in the relationship that it’s coming to an end.
Strong love doesn’t leave room to fall easily for other people.
6. The relationship is negatively impacting your life.
Do you find yourself being less productive at work? Are your friendships and family relationships suffering? Is your boyfriend or girlfriend at the base of these issues?
A relationship is supposed to build you up, not drag you down or tear you down. You should not find work or friendships suffering due to your issues you have with your partner.
Ask yourself what is more important, how you want to live your life, or how someone else tells you to live it.
When we are kids we don’t like to be told what to do by our parents. It should be the same when you are in an adult relationship.
A partner shouldn’t be controlling you. In addition, the way you feel about your life shouldn’t be negatively effected by your partner. Remind yourself what kind of relationship you want to be in, and ask yourself if you are really living that.
Don’t let your work, family relationships or friendships suffer unnecessarily because of the relationship you’re in with your partner. Negativity feeds more negativity. You have to find a way to pull yourself out, and that may be by starting fresh without a lousy partner.
7. A lack of respect.
Mutual respect for each other, even in the face of disagreement, is necessary to keep the lines of communication open, and for both parties to feel safe, secure, and loved. If respect is lacking, and there is a constant feeling of being under attack, it might be time to call it quits.
This can come in many forms, but in this case I am referring to someone mistreating their partner through constant verbal abuse, mind games and degradation. A lack of respect in the relationship could strongly be a sign that your partner isn’t right for you.
If you’re in a relationship where your partner is the type to put you down, talk down to you, and make a fool of you for the sake of laughter, then it’s time to reconsider your relationship.
8. You are flirting with someone else.
Some of us are naturally flirtatious people and it really means nothing. It is simply a banter or a way of expressing oneself. However, if you find that you are flirting and this is out of character, ask yourself if you are lacking attention in your relationship?
Is your person making you feel special? Or are you looking for attention from other people to fill a void? Have an honest conversation with yourself, and then with your partner. If you can’t be made to feel special, then it could be time to change your status.
9. Controlling behavior.
People with insecure personalities don’t always confront their partner. Instead, they use manipulation, aggression and subtle controlling behavior to manipulate you into believing they’re right and you’re wrong.
And before you know it, you’d feel lost and all alone because you would lose all your friends and turn into your partner’s slave.
It’s important to note that controlling behavior in the relationship may not always be obvious. If your partner is bullying you, is always berating or being physically abusive, then it’s easy to know.
However, a partner who controls with subtlety may not always be obvious. When you find out that you’re losing your friends and family members are becoming alienated, know that your partner is controlling you and that is not healthy for the relationship.
10. You don’t trust your partner.
Trust is the most important factor in any healthy relationship. Relationships should be built on trust, so if you are even questioning if you trust your partner, than you probably don’t.
When we don’t trust people we can grow insecure, and ultimately drive ourselves crazy creating realities in our minds, that may or may not be true. No one needs, or deserves to spend their days consumed with questions about what their partner is doing.
Not trusting your partner will certainly cause you to drive yourself into a tizzy, and will effect other areas of your life. You deserve to be in an honest and open relationship, make sure you’re getting the answers you need.
Infidelity is the top cause of marriage breakdowns that end in divorce. Unless you have an agreement to be in an open relationship, cheating is totally unacceptable.
It is possible to forgive someone for cheating and move on, usually if the situation was extremely complex and both parties contributed to it.
Forgiveness may work ONLY if both parties are willing to make the necessary changes and put the past behind them.
It won’t be easy but it is possible. However, if the person is a habitual cheater who just wants to have eat their cake and have it too, regardless of your feelings, then it’s time to walk out the door, and have some respect for yourself.
12. You find yourself lying.
Having to create alternate realities to mask the one your in, is not okay. You should be proud, confident and secure enough to live in the life you are in. You shouldn’t have to make up lies and create a facade.
If you’ve noticed yourself lying frequently about your relationship or your partner ask yourself why you are doing so. Maybe you are lacking some excitement, or perhaps you are covering up your unhappiness.
Be honest with yourself and then be honest with your partner. Remember too, he or she should not want you lying either!
13. You constantly say, “when X happens, everything will be fine”.
Assuming that when you buy a house, have a baby, get engaged, or whatever major event your waiting for, will make your relationship better, it’s not true. Major life events cause stress.
You need your relationship to be strong, and communicative before you step into a major event. Big changes can make everything seem better, they can also make life much harder.
We cannot control tomorrow, but we can control today. So look at the here and now, and don’t assume that an unknown future is the solution.
14. You’ve grown apart.
This happens often. Over time, people just naturally begin to drift apart: interests change, goals change, and people begin to want to take a different path in life. If you are starting to feel this way towards your relationship, you MUST tell your partner the truth.
It is unfair to keep dragging yourself and your partner along just because you are afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. People’s feelings will always get hurt, and it’s their problem, not yours, if they can’t accept the truth.
You must be real with yourself and end the relationship, otherwise, you will build resentment toward your partner because you don’t have it in yourself to do the right thing. If you are feeling guilty because you don’t feel the same anymore, then that is another sign that it’s time to go.
Conclusion – Signs Your Relationship Is Over
There you have it. The 14 signs that your relationship is headed in a different direction for each partner. These signs are certainly not exhaustive in and of itself. However, they give a firm understanding that when you begin to see them in yourself, your partner or both of you, it is time to part company.
As always we would love to hear from you on what signs your relationship is over we missed. Leave them in the comments section below.