How To Ask Someone Out in Person

There are many ways on how to ask someone out without using a text message or phone call. Truth is asking someone out can be downright scary. Your heart may be racing right now just thinking about your crush.

You keep telling yourself that today will be the day you do it, whether it’s when you both have physics class together, through a text message during your lunch break, or a phone call right before you head to bed.

One common misconception about our dating culture, is that the awkwardness and sweaty palms only happen in our teenage years. But many adults can find it just as nerve-wracking, and struggle with it. We understand how intimidating it is to put yourself out there, and want to help you practice being open and vulnerable.

So we put together these 5 ways to ask someone out.

1. Find a common ground.

Before asking someone out, It’s important to find out whether you two have something in common. Instead of making generic small talk, you can delve into topics that help you get to know each other better.

For instance, you can talk about recent movies or books that made an impact on your life, if you know that they have also seen or read them. You can also ask them about what their passions, interests, hobbies and dreams are.

Once you find something that the two of you share, you can converse with them on a deeper level, rather than having dead-end conversations that prevent the both of you from growing closer.

2. Pick a safe activity.

Pick an activity that allows the both of you to bond and have a good time. Going out for coffee or drinks, a walk in the park, or a museum are safe options that aren’t too overwhelming. Make sure that the location you pick, isn’t too crowded or noisy that prevents you from hearing each other speak.

This is especially important for introverts. Is your crush an introvert? Check out our article, “5 dating tips for introverts” for more helpful information. It’s commonly advised not to go to the movie theater as a first date, because it doesn’t give you a chance to interact as much.

But if the two of you decide to have ice cream and talk about the film later, it can act as an icebreaker, and give you something to talk about.

3. It’s cliche and overused, but, be yourself.

You hear this line all the time, but there’s a reason why it’s true. When you’re in a relationship with someone, It’s not about constantly telling each other how great you are, that leaves you no room to be yourself on your bad days. The same applies to asking someone out. Avoid sounding like a salesperson.

Instead, be authentic, and honest. Let the other person know that you think they’re interesting, and that you’re willing to learn more about them. Remember not to be pushy or forceful. After all, you can’t make someone return the same feelings. Respecting each other’s space and boundaries is important.

4. Figure out where you want to ask them.

In this day and age, we can text, email, or call our crushes when we want to ask them out. Asking someone out in person is also an option, but it may be used less often nowadays, because of how intimidating it can be.

Depending on how long you have known the person, and whether or not the two of you have exchanged phone numbers, added each other on social media, or have mutual friends, figure out which method works best for you. Keep in mind that each platform has its own pros and cons.

For instance, asking someone out in person doesn’t give you a chance to retype a message, but it does allow you to see their reaction, and their answer will be immediate, rather than waiting to hear back from a text.

5. Be brave, take the leap!

Don’t wait too long to make your move, seize the day! It’s scary putting your heart on the line, but you never know what may happen if you don’t try. Constantly letting your fears and thoughts dwell up inside of you, will only allow your walls to grow higher. It’s better to take a chance, than look back with regrets and what-ifs.

There will be times they’ll be rejected, but, remember that this only brings you closer to the person you’re meant to be with. We wish you the best of luck! Do you have trouble working up the courage to ask someone out? Please share your thoughts with us below!