What are the things men want from you that they’re never going to ask you for? In this article, I’m talking about what men really want in a woman in their relationship that they’re very rarely going to ask about. Read on.
Let’s be honest. Men aren’t always the best communicators. Sometimes, there’s things they want to see or feel or hear from you that they’re not necessarily good at asking for.
Now, I’m not defending men with this, but in this article I’m talking about seven things men love to feel from you in your relationship that they’re not so good at mentioning.
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1. Live Your Passion Right Through the Relationship
Whether it’s creative pursuits or building a business that you love or planning an overseas adventure or pushing hard forward in your career that you enjoy, go for it. Right across countries, across cultures, across people research has established that people were most attracted to their partner when they were just out of reach doing something they love.
Let me illustrate with this example.
If you’re holding an orange bowl, it’s fairly hard to lust after an orange ball. You can’t literally lust after something that you’re holding. But when the orange ball is just over there and it’s a great orange ball, you want to go and get the ball.
When you’re living your passions right throughout the relationship, you’re doing things that you love. He gets to watch on. He gets to see you at your best. He gets to desire you and have that little bit of space to want to bring you back in.
Men aren’t so good at asking for it because they worry that if they say that, you’re gonna think that it means that they don’t want to spend time with you. But the reality is they love to see you do that because they love to see you in your best energy.
2. Spend Time With Your Friends
This is another one men really struggle to ask because they’re worried that if he says, “Hey, why don’t you go spend time with the girls tonight?” You’re gonna take it as “Oh so you don’t want to spend time with me.” It’s not that at all.
It’s just that he wants to again, have that space. He wants to see you at your best. He wants to desire you. I’ve never met a man who wasn’t more attractive to a woman when she was off spending time with her friends.
He knows that maybe other men will be approaching you or maybe you’ll just be out there doing your own thing for a while and he gets to wonder, “I wonder what she’s doing. Where is she? I get to feel that and then I get to want her back.”
A man telling you to spend time with your friends isn’t him saying, Hey, I don’t want to spend time with you. It’s just him saying, “Hey, we do need space in this relationship to be as attracted to each other as possible and I want and desire you, so go spend time with your friends so I can grab you back”.
3. Your Trust
Trust is so important in a relationship and a man wants to feel like you trust him. Now, this doesn’t just mean with fidelity. This doesn’t just mean, “Hey, I can be trusted to spend time with my female friends or with other women or at a holiday, wherever it is, and you’ll trust me.” He also wants to feel trust day to day.
When you trust him, it makes him feel like a man. It makes him feel like he can take care of business. When you don’t trust a man, behaviors like mothering come up. Behaviors like nagging come up, “Oh, did you book the appointment? Oh, why didn’t you book it all? I’ll just do it. Oh, don’t fix your tie.”
It’s communicating that you don’t trust him. And here is the thing: men’s egos, men’s brains have evolved to tell them they are good if they can be trusted. If you the woman in his life can trust them to take care of business.
Communicate to your man that you trust him in every area of life and he’ll feel like a man who can step up, take care of business and be the man for you.
4. Acceptance of His Help
Have you ever noticed how in disaster movies or horror movies, it’s usually the women and the children that get saved first. This is not coincidence. Biology was very smart and evolved to give us brains that knew that protecting the women was more important because if a tribe had a lot of women, and even if it only had a few men, it was more likely to survive and reproduce than the other way around.
Men’s brains are programmed to help women. Men chemically rewarded literally when they help you. Now, we’re not in tribes anymore, but it doesn’t mean men aren’t carrying biological brain wiring.
When a man offers to help, he’s not saying that you need his help even necessarily. He’s not saying that you’re useless. He’s just saying, “I want to feel like a man and I want to feel like I can contribute.” He gets chemically rewarded and you allowing him to help you by accepting his help doesn’t mean that you’re useless.
It doesn’t mean that you even need it. It just means that he can feel like a man when he’s around you.
5. Let Him Lead
Now men can sometimes be funny about asking for you to let him lead because maybe he feels like if he has to ask, then he’s not much of a man because he shouldn’t even have to ask whatever it is.
Men want to feel like leaders most of the time. See men’s biology was programmed, you know, to be big in their tribe to gather resources so that the women would find him attractive and he’d get good feelings and good chemical rewards for doing that. Your man is a natural born leader.
Letting him lead is important because it’s going to give him that feeling in your relationship. Now, not every man has the opportunity to be leader of a big corporation or to lead or to lead a country. But like I say in your relationship, that’s an opportunity for him to lead. You (and the kids, if you have any) is his opportunity to lead. So give him the chance. It doesn’t have to be all the time, but give him the chance to lead.
He’s going to feel like a man and even though he doesn’t want to ask for it, he’s going to feel great and thankful that you did.
6. Your Love and Appreciation.
So men are really bad at asking for love and appreciation from you, but they will always need it. Research has shown that men who are not appreciated in a relationship are more likely to cheat than those who are appreciated by their partner.
The book by Gary Chapman where we talk about physical touch and compliments, gifts, acts of service and quality time speak his love language. So, show him love and appreciation right throughout your relationship because even though he never asked for it, he really, really wants it.
Now the last of the things men really want in a woman, from you is respect. A man always wants to feel like your man and he always wants to feel like you respect him. Now, don’t just respect him for him though. Respect him for you.
Respect is the most important thing that you can possibly give to someone and you can possibly create in your relationship with your man. If you’re committing to someone you don’t respect or if you don’t respect your partner, it’s very difficult to commit to.Respect your man always.
Even if, even if there’s a situation where he’s disrespecting you, it’s not a reason to disrespect him back. It might be a reason to put your standards in place. It might even be a reason that you need to end that relationship, but you never want to disrespect your man.
Respect is something that men will rarely ask for, but always want to feel from you to feel great about themselves and great in your relationship with you.
Well, that is the end. These are the seven things that men really want in a woman he’s in a relationship with but will hardly ever ask from you.
We invite you to list any other qualities you know your man wants in a relationship whether in marriage or otherwise. Leave your comments in the section below.
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